Yesterday I was listening to a talk online, and something was said that really resonated with me BIG time! “Many of us attempt to predict our future based on the past”. This really hit hard. It provides a perfectly clear explanation of why many of us are suffering both stress and anxiety.
This is something that affects so many of us, in many areas of our life. Think about any scenario in your life at this moment, and think about how this rings true for you in that scenario.
For example, let’s talk about relationships. How many times do you hear someone say (or perhaps it’s you), “I’m done with relationships, there is no one decent out there and I don’t want to get hurt again”. Why do we believe this, or allow ourselves to feel deprived and not worthy of something wonderful? Because this belief comes from a past experience/s and has shaped our beliefs and the way our brain now functions.
If you are feeling crappy, have trouble losing weight and are fatigued all the time, live a high speed lifestyle and feel stressed often (trust me, this is far more common that not), how many times have you heard, “I don’t have time to stop”, “I don’t have time to make changes”, or “I’ve tried everything but nothing helps long term”. Again, the lifestyle we live is one that literally becomes our physiological make up, so no wonder it’s hard to shift.
Ever been faced with making a decision but are unsure of which path to take? You weigh up the pros and the cons, but there is always a lingering, heavy feeling in the pit of your stomach that you can’t seem to shake. You debate with your self and try and be rational, but ultimately, your intuition will win that fight (sometimes it does so in a not so nice way, but you can’t cheat that system, trust me).
So why do we do these things? Why do we put ourselves through so much of this suffering? Because it’s a defence mechanism, that’s why. It is much easier to stay “safe”, then to take a risk. We make these choices based on what we have experienced in the past, assuming that we know the outcome.
This is something that as a health practitioner, we see daily in our clinics. Patients walk though our doors with so many symptoms and health conditions, and 99% of the time there is a psychological driver, such as stress, fear, uncertainty, self doubt, low self esteem and anxiety. These things, over a prolonged period of time become something we become so conditioned to, that we don’t know how to exist any other way. I am not saying that people enjoy living this way, this just becomes their “normal”.
Why do you think it’s so difficult for people to make long term, sustainable changes in their life, both physical and emotional and really transform the way they see themselves and the world around them?
In order to re-program our design, we need to take proactive steps daily to make changes happen. Sometimes it is easy to feel like things aren’t working or they’re not happening fast enough. Remember to always be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself and the process, because nothing good and worth having comes easily.
If this is something that resonates with you, I’d love to know ❤